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Monday, March 10, 2008

Sob Story or Starting Point?

Yesterday I was feeling pretty sorry for myself:

  • I'm pregnant and feel crappy a lot of the time.
  • We have no maternity coverage on our insurance and doctor visits and hospitals are expensive.
  • My husband was M.I.A. (out of town on business) for over a week and I am sick of doing everything on my own.
  • I have a somewhat demanding calling at church that can feel rather overwhelming.
  • I can't seem to keep our house the way I want it (or do much of anything the way I want it.)
  • My skin is breaking out and I feel "not pretty."

..... (you get the picture).

Then I picked up my scriptures and read D&C 121 & 122 and was sorely humbled. Is life sometimes hard? (Even REALLY hard?) YES. But I had a choice. Either I could sit and boo-hoo OR I could take a deep breath, look at the challenges I face, and move forward. Self-pity is never a productive emotion (although it can be a very tempting one!) And even though things may be hard in the moment, "all these things shall give [me] experience, and shall be for [my] good." And really, when compared with things other people face, I will gladly accept my trials. It doesn't necessarily make them feel any easier, but changing my attitude from one of self-pity to one of faith and determination can make all the difference.

10 comments:

Brynn said...

Wow Jessi your amazing. Thanks for the light today, I needed it!!

MiandMiksmom said...

Oh, what great advice! Thanks for making me feel better too. I'm sorry you were feeling a little down. You are so beautiful and such a good mom...I know it's hard, but you can do it!

Michelle Pyne said...

Thank you for teaching me how to handle difficult challenges! You are taking something very painful, adjusting your perspective, and moving through and overcoming it. I am very prone to self-pity, and it is so good for me to see you don't need to go there. Thank you for your excellent example!

nlindley said...

I was feeling down a few weeks ago and kept telling myself I should find someone to serve. You are the one I should serve, so let me know! Anytime at all, I'll come running to help. You're amazing!

Sally said...

Thanks for being such a good example. I think that ability to have a 'paradigm shift' is so important! I hope that's something I can pass on to my children.

Kami said...

You are such a good example. Thank you!

Audra said...

You are doing great! Press forward!

And if I can help, let me know. I want to help.

Nisa said...

Funny that you would make such a timely comment. Yesterday I didn't blog - because I had nothing nice to say. I'd spent days, researching homeowners policies, bank info, and starting new utilities. All the while, assuming that my husband knew what was going on with the business of the house. Two hours into Tuesday, after days of sitting 7 months pregnant on the floor, missing meals and ignoring my children to accomplish millions of tasks, I thought I deserved to rest. I discovered instead that my husband hadn't finished the policy decision that was now holding up our loan and therefore threatening to collapse all the plans I'd painstakingly prepared, he also wasn't working cooperatively with our lending agent. Then I discovered that his misguided notion of walking into a new bank here, opening a checking account and walking out with a 60k cashiers check was not possible, I was even more mad because I know how married he is to Zion's bank. And you can't bank out of state in situations like these. The list only grew longer. So ignored my kids for ten hours, barely ate, handled a constant stream of phone calls and impossible time frames to work a money wiring miracle, while my stomach cramped and I cried all afternoon. Then when I lost my temper, I was only met with complaints that I need to step up and be a team PLAYER! AHHHHHHH.
But at some point I realized that anger, resentment, pouting, none of it would do me any good. Wish I'd thought to read a little D&C for humility but thanks to you, I got a little piece of it anyway! :)

Abbi said...

I'm impressed.

Elaine said...

We all need the reminders when life gets ya down.