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Thursday, July 10, 2008

The honeymoon's over

I have so enjoyed the previous few months. I've had energy, motivation, and patience. But those days are gone. Long gone. And they feel like they will never return. These days I feel like crying the moment I open my eyes in the morning because I know that I have to get up and face the day. And it's not like I really have anything too traumatic to face, but the little things are HARD and the fact that they're hard is REALLY hard. Little things like bending down to sort the laundry, putting the dishes away, or carrying in the groceries feel beyond my abilities. And doing these things with four to six little girls (depending on how many friends we have over) who need help, attention, and comfort taxes my limits.

How do you combat the feelings of being grumpy and useless? I have ten weeks to go and I would really rather not spend them all fighting back tears and frustration.

9 comments:

Rachel said...

Oh girl. I just went through all that and I feel for you. I have no good advice... other than to hang in there and hold on for dear life because, thank goodness, it is temporary. I thought I'd never be "back to normal" emotionally (physically is still a long way off...), but it does come.
Big hugs to you!

Emma said...

I'm in the same boat. It's getting harder to go up and down stairs, or even getting up off the floor. I am having a really hard time sleeping at night. I am way too emotional and my temper is even shorter than normal.
I only have 8 weeks to go, and it's only my third baby. I don't remember wishing for the baby to come so soon with the others. I have to wait at least 6 weeks until I'm back home. I really don't want to have this baby in ID and then move her back to WA when she is so little.
Good luck. We can do it!!!

tara said...

I was feeling this way just a few weeks ago (see last month on my blog!) and I'm NOT pregnant... but I know how you feel! The best advice I can give is... it will get better in a few days... if not 10 weeks. Just realizing that it wouldn't always be "that" way, and I won't always feel like "that" helped... but only a little bit! It will get better... pray for strength... remember your comfort over there on your side bar... You can Do it Jessi!

{{hugs}}}

Audra said...

Well, you are not alone! And just like the others have said, it won't last forever. Just hang on and endure! I remember saying a prayer for help just to walk up the stairs.

Again, it won't last forever. Don't forget that!

Nisa said...

I had several honeymoon over moments, and with each one I pouted - a lot - I believe in giving yourself time to mourn, but then I got over it and felt a great energy renewal.

When I was living alone, taking care of both kids, and getting the house ready to move, I was nauseated all the time and I thought I was going to die.

Then when I was 8 months pregnant and we moved into a new house, I had house keeping and unpacking to do. It was 90 degrees outside and my husband only spent a couple awake hours home each week - I thought I would die again. But then I realized that no one was there to back me up and I found even more strength to do the tasks before me.

By the time I got to the last month, and it really was as bad and painful, uncomfortable and sleep deprived as it gets, I looked back on climbing ladders and hoisting boxes at five months, looked back on hoisting boxes and installing blinds at 8 months and I realized that you can do it.

I know you can do it. God knows you can do it. And we all know that it sucks. But in the end, it is worth it.

Michelle Pyne said...

The best things in life aren't free. They come with a great cost. What a marvelous work you are accomplishing! Take it a day at a time, an hour at a time. Pray for help to walk up the stairs, to pick up the laundry, to wash the dishes, to take care of your girls. This will be only for a small moment, and then it will be over. And it will be worth it!

Shana said...

Jessi,
I am so sorry you are feeling this way. You are not alone, just like everyone is saying. You are a beautiful woman and mother. One of the best out there!! Just take it one day at a time and pretty soon you will be back to your normal self!! Don't be afraid to ask for help too!!! Because I am sure anyone would be happy to help you!! The things we do for our children, huh?? I love you Jessi!!! HANG IN THERE.

Natalie said...

Try hard to do something nice for yourself every day. And call me if you need help. xo!

Jen said...

Sometimes I just lock myself in the bathroom for three to five minutes and practice my ignoring skills.

Also, eat (nutritious) things I crave. There was a guacamole incident that left me cheerful for a couple of days.

De-clutter one of those small mess spots for 10 minutes. Just say after 10 minutes you can stop. You'll be amazed at what you can do and feel so on top of things.(Fly-lady tip, I love it.)